You found a good man on a site. You started exchanging messages that can’t end up with a date. You communicate with this virtual friend and got used to him. And you got a thought: “Maybe it’s a fake or a married one, or maybe I am not the only girl with whom he is chatting?”
Such stories are quite usual. Some women wait for initiative from a man for months or even years! Others postpone the moment of meeting the man by themselves: messages are comfortable and it’s scary to go to a date. But many ones just don’t know how to take this guy from Internet. So why men don’t call women from virtual to real life? Often they are ready to change their live in theory but in practice they hesitate and doubt if they are ready to accept this love. It’s not good for a woman because such long correspondence can become a surrogate of relationship. Waiting for new messages, a built up image of a man – and you are addicted to Internet. You can’t marry cyber-partner and of course can’t have children from him.
So we recommend to fish out the man out of Internet not to get lost in the web.
How to make him to appoint a meeting without “monitors”
Of course there’s no need to take the bull by horns and offer a date – let him do the first step. But there are several secrets that can stimulate him to necessary actions without manipulations:
– Know your advantages, strong sides of your personality and implement them in your communication. It will make your value higher in his eyes.
– Don’t let the communication be longer than two months even if he is from another country (make exclusion when you discuss a trip, plan dates and buy tickets). If a man lives in the same city with you, correspondence must not be longer than three weeks. One or one and a half months is maximum, watch the time!
– Raise the dynamics of communication. Call to each other more often, communicate more interesting. This will lead to the situation when online-communication is not enough for this man!
– Your communication must be intriguing. You can impress him only once. Each your phrase, each SMS like the first impression must make you more interesting in his eyes. Think through all your answers correspondence lets you do it easily.
– Some clues for the meeting. It can be done in a delicate way, asking about future plans, how he likes to spend his time and etc.
– Don’t be afraid to give your telephone number. As a rule a phone call happens before a date. But women prefer not giving it to men. We don’t recommend such approach..
– Give your number in some particular way so he couldn’t mix with anybody else. Men often have about ten girl phone numbers in their phone. Let him not forget about you.
Rules of correspondence
It can seem like correspondence goes like goes. Many women think the same about communication with men. But the experience shows that there are several rules that can help to make a date happen faster.
1. Length of a message
It’s better when you make the length of message the same as the length of messages of the person with whom you talk, in this case the conversation will be easier for both of you. But sometimes you can break the usual rhythm: make messages longer and see how the man reacts.
2. Two-three letters technics
If the man disappeared take a short break, then send him 2-3 letters but not in a row, with a pause of 2-3 days. Letters must have increasing tastyness: shorter, more interesting, more involving. You can write something crazy, breaking patterns, to make feel surprised.
3. Look for “hooks” in his writing
These are moments when you hook the man and develop the conversation. Choose 2-3 hooks, ask questions and fish the man out of internet.
4. Less conversations about nothing
In other case the man gets bored. When he is interested in conversation, he will crave for continuing it meeting in you in real life, waiting for listening than reading.
5. Talk like you build relations already
Don’t be greedy for compliments, thanks, inciting phrases, interesting questions so the man would not fall out of conversation.
All these skills will help you to fish out your man to date. And if you want to see him beside you and not only on a monitor, develop them and make dynamics of communication. And then invitation to date won’t be take much time.